Funeral services are conducted only for those people who are Orthodox Christians in regular Canonical and Spiritual standing with the Church. In other words, only those people who have been Baptized and Chrismated in the Orthodox Church are eligible for an Orthodox Christian Funeral.
Should there be a death in the family, the following steps should be taken:
1. Immediately notify the family doctor or the County Medical Examiner if the death occurs at home. He must examine the deceased and sign the death certificate. The body cannot be removed otherwise.
2. Call thepriest.
3. Call the funeral director of your choice. But we prefer “Russ Monros” in Fair Oaks.
1. Arrangements for the funeral service should be made with the priest in conjunction with the funeral director.
2. No funerals are permitted on Sunday, the day of the Resurrection of our Lord.
3. The priest will conduct a Trisagion at the funeral home or Church on the evening before the funeral.
4. Funeral services conducted by lay organizations, although discouraged, may be held the evening before the funeral and prior to the Trisagion conducted by the priest. However, from the time of the evening Trisagion to the committal at the cemetery, no other services may be held.
a funeral service may not be held in cases of:
Suicide — As no one is permitted to take the life of another, likewise no one is permitted to take his/her own life; that is, suicide is viewed by the Church as self-murder and consequently as grave sin. Only when a doctor certifies that such a person had lost his/her sanity and when permission of the Bishop is given can a Church funeral be held.
Cremation — Cremation is absolutely forbidden by the Church as being blasphemous to the body of man which is “the temple of the Holy Spirit”. Cremation is contrary to the faith and tradition of our Church and is forbidden to Orthodox Christians. A Church funeral is denied a person who has been or will be cremated.
Some families prefer Memorial Donations to flowers. If this is the choice of the family, mention should be made to the funeral director so that notification can be placed in the Obituary. Acknowledgments to the donors are made by the Church Office and a list sent to the family.
The Daca meal following the funeral service serves as a means of comforting the bereaved family and expressing thanks to those who attended the services or assisted the bereaved family in their hour of grief.
Memorial Services – Parastos
If you desire to have a Memorial Service for a departed loved one you should make arrangements with the priest at least two weeks prior to the day desired.
Memorial Services are not held:
1. All Holy Days of our Lord Christmas, Epiphany, Pascha, Transfiguration, etc.
2. Saturday of Lazarus, Good Friday, God Saturday, Easter
3. Pentecost Sunday
4. August 28, Assamption of the Blessed Virgin Mary
Memorial Services are usually held on the:
1. 40th day
2. Sixth month
3. First year
4. Saturday of the Souls set aside throughout the Church Year – Zadusnice
What you should bring:
1. Koliva – Zito (Call the church office if you want someone to make the koliva)
2. Prosphora (prosfora/prosforon), if desired
3. List of names to be commemorated (print first name only)
Days on which prayers for the deceased (Parastoses) are not said: According to Rule 169 of the Nomocanon (Book of Church Rules), Parastoses are not said:
1. From Christmas to Epiphany;
2. During the first week of Great Lent;
3. during Holy and Bright Week (before and after Pascha);
4. On all Major Feast such as Christmas, New Year, Epiphany, Palm Sunday, Pascha, Assension, Pentecost and Transfiguration.
Litanies or Pomen can always be held except from Holy thursday to St. Tomas Sunday
MEMORIAL DAYS (ZADUSNICE)
1. Every Saturday is dedicated to the memory of deceased Orthodox Christians.
2. There are, however, four major Memorial Saturdays which precede four fasting seasons:
3. Saturday, (before Meat-fare Sunday); Saturday (before Pentecost); Saturday, in October (before Miholjdan); Saturday, in November (before St. Demetrius Day).